I have been in many situations were I came up with reasonable believable justifications (excuses) for hurting another person or persons.Especially when that other party attacked me first. As well, I have been in situations where I was injured and hurt for being unable to cover my ass in a physical confrontation… some of these were in my professional security capacity and some were just part of my old dysfunctional life. Either way probably 99.9% of these situations could have been resolved without any violence.
MY point is that when anyone feels and / or thinks that they need to or want to engage in a violent altercation or confrontation or in a dramatic episode where they can try out their “fighting defense or offensive skills” – they will MAKE IT HAPPEN!
Some of us can actually talk our self into claiming our inherent right – even God-Given right to try out our acquired skills. Usually these are security skills, self defense skill, martial arts skills or fitness skills or weapons skills or even mental / psychological confidence empowered skills which are designed to make us overcome former debilitating fearful behavioral problems which hampered us before. After all we needed to defeat our old negative conditioning… or suffer even more!
No matter the situation – we feel or think compelled – we have that need to chose might for our right! It is at the very least that each person with disturbances inside chooses to do violence in confrontation. This is done consciously or through conditioning through family up-bringing or contrived or disturbed cultural or ethnic or societal conditioning.
I must make it clear that just because you can stand your ground – each person must be able to discern between – truth justice and conscientious healthy human behavior. This is easy to say and yet, difficult to do for any person who is feeling or thinking or believing that they are being hurt or attacked – especially when they have unresolved, unknown, denied or repressed issues of being a fearful, emotionally disturbed victim!
The whole issue around “stand your ground” is so disturbing when you look at the source of how some of the disturbed, distorted thinking came about in American and Canadian society. There is a social norm many of us have concocted for us to defend our self. Where some people believe and want the right to use deadly force. Some want to be legally justified in stopping another human being “threatening” us. Violent situations are usually “solved” with people trained and equipped with weapons which cause maximum ultimate damage. The thinking – attitudes or belief system around this is usually – be first – fast – and accurate – know what you want to achieve and don’t miss!
After all if you’ve convinced your self to believe – think – imagine or fantasize that your are an elite person or of a “special” group with special rights above others… then something is wrong. There is a grandiose – even arrogance that you have the obligation to not lose. You are an integral part of a superior people… and you must live up to this.
The phenomenon of having to carry on this “disturbed and distorted” cultural norm is so pressurizing that most people cannot comprehend it…. it is like being proud and arrogant at the same time as being full of shame and so fearful…. you just can’t tell anyone and yet you must seek out to “experience this phenomenon. So you must carefully pick and choose a safe “victim” and calculate your chances to succeed in your favor. It is not by chance that the situation comes around – not usually anyhow. Afterall you would not pick to walk into a bar full of drunken biker gangsters all crazed and raring to go for trouble – would you.
So you are torn between your right to go anywhere and your right to be proud of your skills and abilities… and your legacy of being a warrior. Too many times anyone of us will carefully pick a soft spot to exercise our sickness… socially accepted excuse to experience taking – ending another human beings life! And saying “I had no choice.”
Odds are that the other person had their right to stand their ground too… or id they know that?