Keeping Your Promise – StrongHeart

I PROMISE TO LIVE BETTER – I CHOOSE

For myself – I have had to say (numerous times) “I will never do that again” or “I won’t turn out like so-and-so and I will stop living troubled”… and I have also said that I plan on keeping my promise to you. This c

kind of promise is usually to a loved one and/or to oneself. Whatever your reason for wanting to live “better” – (get healthy) – you as a person must want to choose to live responsibly. Usually, we – you or I, may say something like “I will be in control of my use or abuse of alcohol, drugs, and mood-altering substances”.
Every person who has been made aware that they are living troubled will make themselves or their loved ones a promise – to live better. For each of us, we have people who affect us and affect our decisions. These effects can be negative or positive. These effects last throughout our lives. From teenie babies to little kids, to big teenagers, and on to bigger adulthood.
So at some point, we make a promise to alter some behavior or “unknown need” to do some behavior that makes living with us problematic. If you are still following – great. If not go back and read this over. AND remember your own intimate words to your self!
I promised – many times – to “behave” to “act better” to “be better” and said many other ways of saying – I want to live healthy and free! Yet, what does saying this – actually mean? What do I have to do now?

*Please note that I am saying this is information to add to yours and/or for you to make some comparison to what you already know and do. Maybe you just might have to change your perception and understanding and maybe your belief. If whoever influenced your growing was disturbed or distorted in their emotions or thinking then you just might be or become troubled in some living ways.*

I remember reading online CBC news about a First Nations Tribal woman who – is in “Recovery” and healing from her “childhood trauma”. Just to real straight up – 100% sure that if you are any part “Indigenous” – “Aboriginal” – or “Tribal” then you are negatively affected by colonization! Anyhow, this woman = (Ojibway pronounced E-Quay) Ekwe said, “I am working on myself to become that adult that I needed as a little girl.” She came from understanding how she was troubled and chose to learn, educate herself with healthy help to change her negative circumstances to make her quest to live free and healthy – COME TRUE!  She wrote about her work plan to keep her promise. She has a definite support people on place and she talked openly about this plan. She was not just changing saying that she wanted to change her life way – she actually had a program – a plan – a maintenance program. And she spoke publicly about it – she addressed her shame of being though of as weak or less-than!

MAINTENANCE PROGRAM

Keeping your promise to “not to do that negative thing again” will be more easily guaranteed WHEN you have a written out, talked out, worked out, dry-run and practiced out – MAINTENANCE PROGRAM in place.
You must also have healthy support with someone qualified and healthy to – actually talk with – face to face – in person. And you must understand that if you are having re-occurring troubles then you must consider the influence of the family you can from.
Support for you from your family and or friends DEPENDS ON YOUR TRUST ND SAFETY with them. So, this usually means you need to understand “family-of-choice”. Please note – that there is a great difference in healthy relating for you with your “family-of-origin” and your “family-of-choice”.
Family-of-Choice is what you will develop in your healthier vision and belief in those you want to share your true authentic self with.

Just think – why do we choose a life partner?

Perhaps, we want to give and receive REAL LOVE. This will be acceptance and support in the healthiest of behaviors and actions and most definitely includes talking and listening. Talking and listening. Clear and honest. Compassionate and supportive.

Your quest to promise to live better – is really about stating outright what you know and then you have to be willing to check IF your present reasoning or rationalization of healthy living is going to set you up for another “Failure”??

Recovery is the COMMITTED CHOICE of lifestyle to changing from troubled living to a complete way of living healthy. This is a process – not an instant promise happening! The way you do your healthy living is your work program. This is also called a re-construction program. Because you have a knowledge and an understanding of how and what in your life you need and want… and now you must make YOUR MAINTENANCE PLAN.

Your right to live free is given at birth… not by any person. Your right to grow and understand and talk and be heard and respected is born into you.

Your strength is out of respect and honor. And should be out of love and love is only one way – healthy!!

I write this with my understanding that I made many mistakes and I needed healthy support and after many attempts – I am grown-up.

Mitakuye Oyasin – We are all related (I see this as my first hope-pray – that I am always willing and able to treat my self and all others as my relative… and treat them healthy)

**The symbol at the opening is for me about seeing my true self and showing my true self as a StrongHeart. A StrongHeart is a common man person who lives true to the belief that life is worth living and standing for honor**